PMI New Jersey Chapter
PMINJ 1998 October Meeting

20 October 1998 - Woodbridge - Hilton

PDP Information

Staying in Control and Motivating Others Through Change in a Matrix Organization
PDUs: - 1.5
Leadership - 1.5
Strategic - 0.0
Technical - 0.0


Follow who you trust
  • Be comfortable in your own skin (includes being uncomfortable)
  • There are 2 kinds of people - be a pig
  • Pigs (5%) are committed
  • Chickens (95%) are only involved
  • Love not war - for effective sales
  • You are more productive when you are happy
  • Make sure you are -> Doing the right thing
  • Fear - hate, envy, malice
  • Worship begins when you leave
  • Everyone needs an advisory board of 12 people
  • Think outside the box
  • Hug a porcupine
  • Leaders breathe humility
  • Tough love
  • Appreciation
Handout 1:

"Every day above ground is a good one" - Ted Fattoross 
"You can fail many times, but you're not a failure until you begin to blame somebody else." - Anon 

"One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time." - Andre Gide 

"Your ship will come in, only after you build it." - Ted Fattoross 

"Experience is not what happens to you. It's what you do with what happens to you." - Aldous Huxley 

"I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed" - Booker T. Washington 

"Self-esteem is the courage to be who we really are, and not what or who we are told to be." - Ted Fattoross

Handout 2:
To Do List
  • Every team needs a leader- lead by example
  • Everyone is a salesperson- "sell" your ideas
  • Listening is the key to communicating- always listen
  • Report all the news- the bad news first
  • You can not motivate others- you can motivate yourself
  • Set realistic goals- you will not disappoint others/yourself
  • A leader must exhibit high energy- take care of your needs first
  • Leaders are willing to follow- everyone has something to offer
  • Validation is the pathway to creating teamwork- validate others
  • You are not your job- get a life
  • Self-esteem is not "feeling good"- it's doing the right thing
  • Confidence is not control- it's letting go
  • Te.a.m.- t.ogether e.very a.chieves m.ore
  • It's not how much gold we leave our children that's important- it's how little baggage we leave behind that matters
  • Courage is not the absence of fear- it is moving ahead in the face of fear
  • Every day above ground is a good one
Handout 3:

"We are born complete,
we are not deficient.
We need not be fixed,
for we are not broken.
We are whole, not fragmented.
We need to nurture the child in us,
not force it to grow up.
We are love, only love.
It is fear that prevents us from
being who we really are.
We are love, only love " Ted Fattoross

"It's not how much gold we leave our children that's important- it's how little baggage we pass on to them that really matters" Ted Fattoross

Handout 4:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate 
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure 
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us 

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? 
Actually, who are you not to be? 
You are a child of God. 

Your playing small doesn't serve the world. 
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. 

We were born to make manifest, the glory of God that is within us. 
It's not in just some of us; it's in everyone. 
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people the permission to do the same. 

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. 

Marianne Williamson


speaker  award

Ted Fattoross - Speaker - Trainer - Consultant


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